The one thing I love about golf is the fact that every day you are constantly learning something new. In golf and about one’s self.
I recently got called pig-headed (stubborn, self-willed, headstrong, mulish, inflexible or obstinate), and immediately I got my back up, being quite agitated by the comment, in my head I was thinking that is not the case. My self- talk was “ I am always willing to learn” (which I soon realised that that wasn’t even what he was referring to). Straight after what I saw as an insult, I became defensive and said if you don’t like me there is the door (hypothetically speaking). The very next day he apologised and explained that he is just trying to help. When he was younger he never had anyone helping him along the way, and if he had, it would have helped hugely in fast-tracking his career.
So instead of being open minded, I spent two days being angry at someone that was just truly trying to help. I’m a firm believer in actions speak louder than words, and over the years through a number of false promises, taken advantage of and a number of no’s, I have become, what I now call defensive. Using a protective mechanism to get to where I want to be, and if anyone shows any sign of getting in my way, I stop them quickly in their tracks. It does become disheartening when you are working to the best of your ability, and giving it your all. When no one is willing to take a chance on you this does not mean I have stop trying or given up. I am more determined than ever to achieve my goals. I would just prefer to go into a situation open hearted, without being so “pig-headed”.
Asking for help is not an easy thing for me, and I am also a very private person. But, the truth is everyone needs help in one way or the other. Asking for help is not a weakness. It’s not to say you won’t get to where you want to be without help, but it would sure make the process a lot more enjoyable. Golf for ladies over the past few years has not been easy, having been faced with a number of challenges, and we have had to become “tough” because of this in order to keep moving forward, and get to where we want to be. I am extremely grateful to my family for always reminding me that there are people you can count on. I am confident that with the voice of Sally Little and UniMedia, that these false promises will become far and in-between, where I’ll no longer need to protect myself and I can just trust that someone is willing to help. Where there is hope there is life and a promise of a new day!